1. There is only one you. This is so incredibly special and important to remember. We spend so much time wanting to look like someone else, or be like someone else. I know I'm guilty of becoming a fan of an actor/singer/what have you, and then doing whatever I can to be just like them. The fact is that trying to be like someone else will not make you any more confident in who you are. In fact, it will likely have the opposite effect. How incredible is it that there is only one you? Over seven billion people on this earth and no one else in the world is just like you. No one else has your exact same quirks, or freckles, or laugh. We are supremely unique beings, and that in itself is something to be confident in. Why waste your one life trying to be like someone else? Instead, try to own exactly who you are, and share it with the world. To borrow an old adage "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken."
2. Your so-called "flaws" are what make you special. We have been taught that there is one version of perfection, and if you stray from that in any way, there is something wrong with you. Often the things that make us stand out, are the things we want to change. When I was young I was taller than everyone else my age, and I hated it. Now I absolutely love being tall. The truth is there are endless types of perfection, and we all hold some of them. You are your own version of perfect, and there is nothing wrong with owning that. The things that make you different, are the things you should appreciate most. Imagine how incredibly boring it would be if we all fit into the same mold. Embrace everything that makes you special or different, and display it proudly.
3. Society is wrong. Sometimes I wonder why I feel the need to make changes to my appearance and the answer is always "Because society has taught me that I have to.". I straighten my hair because society says frizz is no bueno. I wear foundation because society says my skin tone sucks if it's not even. I work out partially because I want to be healthy, but mostly because society has taught me that my body isn't beautiful unless I'm fit. Don't get me wrong, I love makeup and all of that crap. I really do. But the idea is that I shouldn't feel like I have to make myself up to feel good. The truth of the matter is that society is wrong. Society has created these ideals, but who says we have to follow them? Who says we have to believe them? Why can't we create our own ideals? 60 years ago women did whatever they could to get curves, then they were taught that being stick thin was beautiful. Do not let society dictate what makes you beautiful. Say it with me, society is wrong. Create your own confidence.
(make-up is fun, but you're beautiful with or without it)
4. People love you for who you are, not for what you look like. Think about the people who love you. Do they love you because of your perfectly toned body? Do they like to be around you because of your perfect skin, or your soft hair? Hell no! Your loved ones adore you because of you who you are. They love the things you say, the way you make them feel. They like being around you because you make them smile and laugh. They have you in their life because you add something special to it. If you stripped yourself of every beauty inducing product, would your loved ones want to be around you any less? Picture your funeral. Is anyone saying "We miss so-and-so because they always applied their make-up perfectly."? It's ridiculous to think that anyone loves you for any reason other than who you are. So, next time you feel like you're worth less because you don't match up to society's ideals, think about the people who love you, and remember that they don't give a shit.
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